Don’t bash my (your) hair.

I wonder what problem some black women have with their hair? I once was sleep, but now I’m woke, and I swear, the idea of sewing in, or attaching someone else’s dead hair, or putting it over mine… its weird as fuck when you think about it. LOL. Not to shade anyone… but I’m just saying. The idea, “I don’t like my own hair, so I’ll just add some fake in. No matter if its a different texture than mine, no matter if its blond, I’m going to hide mine, and rock someone else’s!”

Nah bro…

So many times, I hear black people use the word “nappy” to describe their hair texture. (“I cant do anything wit my hair… its so NAPPY!”) And every time I do, it really makes my ass itch. That, or they shy away from wearing their real, natural hair out. Ive even had someone tell me that they don’t like that way (my) locs look unless they are groomed and neat. When I asked why, she told me that its nappy looking. I asked, “whats wrong with that?” Annnnnd *crickets* She couldn’t even explain to me why she thinks my (our) hair is so distasteful, she just says it is.

I try not to turn my nose up at the whole weave, perm, unnatural looking hair thing… don’t get me wrong, but I just have a very strong opinion about it. I feel like the fake is all we know. All we’ve been taught that’s acceptable. Some of us, anyway. And the thought of that saddens me.

I don’t understand the thought of paying hundreds of dollars to buy hair… to BUY HAIR. That you can just grow from your own scalp. And that will be more beautiful, if I’m being honest, than any of that shit you can buy in the store. Now, like I said… I once was sleep. I use to wear weaves. I use to perm my hair. Didn’t know anything else. But now that I’m older… more self aware, I suppose I’ve found a certain comfort in my own skin. With my own traits… not borrowed ones. But I’ve seen women in a panic if “their hair” isn’t done.

I’m not trying to preach. Not trying to bash. But do wish that one day more women will start being more comfortable with their hair… The versatility of it, it can do so many things.

In my opinion, there’s nothing better than that.

Artwork by my homie, Terrence @dreammerchant_media on IG